People often ask me, what is the most critical attribute of a
winner in life? Without hesitation, I answer that believing you deserve to win is the
key. If you believe in your dreams when they’re all you have to
hang on to, you begin to try. If you feel you have potential or talent, you’ll
invest in it. If you believe you’re worth the effort, you’ll put in the time and
energy. If you think you can, you’ll learn how.
Healthy
self-esteem is perhaps the most important and basic quality of a winning human
being. You want to be able to say: “I like myself. Given
my parents and my background, I’m glad I’m me. I realize I may not be the
best-looking in the group, but I always look and do my best in every group. I’d
rather be me than anyone else in the world.” This is the self-talk of a winner.
Winners have developed a strong sense of self-worth, regardless of their status.
They weren’t necessarily born with these good feelings, but they’ve learned to
like themselves through practice.
The most successful companies in the world know that valued
employees are their most precious resource. Valuable employees pass their value
on to customers. The result? Excellence and quality. They are the most powerful
competitors in the world marketplace. Instead of comparing ourselves to others,
we should view ourselves in terms of our own abilities, interests and goals. We
can begin by making a conscious effort to upgrade our lifestyle, education and
personal development. You always project on the outside how you feel on the
inside.
Core values radiate like rings, as when a pebble is thrown in
a pond. The self-centered constantly seek approval from and power over others.
They try to impress them with their worth rather than express concern for
others' well-being. And their outward appearances usually involve ways to hide
their real thoughts and intentions.
The value-centered give of themselves freely and
graciously, constantly seeking to empower others. Open and modest, they have no
need for conceit, the opposite of core value. Feeling good about who they are,
and not needing to talk about their victories or line their walls with
celebrity photos, people with core values spend much of their time "paying
value," as I call it, to others. When praised, they share the spotlight.
When they make mistakes, they view them as learning experiences and accept
responsibility.
